Dating SuckS!

So... Ive been through countless relationships in the past 6 months it would make your head spin..it sure does mine. To note, these are not "random hook-ups" or just someone I took back to slam for the fun of it. And what Ive determined and confirmed with various articles/books/etc.. is that dating is essentially a game. Like chess, this involved strategy and planning. A very fucked up game of "Clue" is a close description. I will admit that I have in fact failed at this so called "game", but its by choice. I refuse to be anyone but myself and have treated others as I expected to be treated despite the "rules" of the game. As a heterosexual male with a scientific background, its easy for me to correlate my failed relationships with each individual female I have encountered, with my "approach" to the game. I'm not saying that dating is scientific in any regards, but in my experiences I've noticed trends that lead to the same specific and calculated result.

As Ive become older, and looking for a relatively long term relationship, the dates I have acquired have been various. I dont date significantly older or younger girls (a year older or younger than myself), expecting them and discussing with them being in the same stage of life. So I usually sleep with them before the 3rd date.. I believe this is a non-factor in the over-all result of the relationship due to the lack of actual emotional value of sex at the given time. I could be wrong on this, but given that i have been told the same ending story in essentially every relationship, i feel this is not that important. Also I live relatively far away from most people I date due to location, so it makes sense that she would sleep over and one thing leads to another. Anyhow, each woman Ive dated for a while have resulted in the same response: "I think your such a great guy, and i don't want to lose you, but I'm just not ready or confused right now".

Why this response? you can form your own opinions but i truly believe that i treated each one too well (and equally) given the specific time frame.. Most married woman would love for their husbands to treat them like gold (which i did for each one, besides my "control" experiment). As a note, dating is an experiment...its a test to see if a male/female will be or meet a certain expectation based upon their previous relationships. Anyways, what I have determined is that treating woman well, which may include buying dinners, saying complimentary things, being open and communicative, expressing any emotion. If you any of these, it makes you appear "weak" or 'un-confident", and inevitably result in a failed relationship. Any truth to how you feel about someone in which things you say or things you do is strategy to the "game".

It would seem that being honest and open with someone in regards to how you enjoy them and their company would be a success. However In my experience, everyone I have treated in such a manner gives the same (slightly variable in terms) excuse for not wanting to be with a legitimately nice guy.

However, i did date someone in which I was not attracted too physically. Call me shallow, call me an asshole, call me whatever, but.... I didn't do anything special for her.. i didn't plan elaborate dates, nights out, dinners, etc... regardless, she sent me texts all the time regarding her feelings for me. I didn't feel the same (due to the attraction factor) so i didn't lead her on.

As I looked back i though it was rather odd and ironic that the girls i dated in which I sent flowers to, or bought things I knew she wanted/things i knew she enjoyed, were the ones to end it with me. Why?..... because i wasn't playing the game... i was being honest. But sadly, this is not how dating is.. In my opinion, you have to treat woman (that you like) as if you were not that interested.. you don't give complimentary comments, you don't buy nice things, you don't show an interest at all... This will honestly result in the interest being delivered back ten fold in the non-expected direction....